Admit Your Limitations

Humility-300x300Come and learn the possibilities (and the limitations) of holistic nutrition.”

These remain one of my favourite sentences ever penned in marketing.

I remember reading it, on a poster for a workshop on holistic nutrition at an organic grocery store in town, and being struck at how much more credible and trustworthy the workshop it was describing seemed to me. Such a simple notion: admitting that there are limitations to what you have to offer.

We all know it’s true anyway. Nothing works 100% of the time. And, when people claim it or imply that it does, we trust them less, not more. When people tell us that their modality can help everyone, we take a step back.

Unless we’re desperate. Then we tend to grasp onto anything. Even the heavy stone that false hope becomes in stormy waters. Anything. This is part of the responsibility of marketing: don’t fuck with people. Don’t give them false hopes. Be real with them. Be real about everything that’s possible and that could happen. Be real with them about the limitations of what you can do.

This is why niching matters. When you choose a niche, you’re saying to people, “I can’t do everything. But I have some skill in this area.” That is credible. That is believable.

If you’re real like this then there are plenty of sales you won’t make. But there are enough sales that you will make. And, if you avoid over promising, you also won’t have to deal with people wanting refunds, complaining about you, calling you a fraud, or suing you. So there’s that.

I’ll always remember Billy Blanks in his Tae Bo infomercials telling people how much hard work his programs were and making sure people knew that it wouldn’t be easy and not to buy it if they were looking for a quick fix.

If your natural nutritional approach can help people with their cancer treatment but not replace it, tell your potential clients that.

If your work can help a client find meaning in heartbreak but not remove the pain of that heartbreak, tell them that.

If your work can help clients save money but it won’t make them rich, tell them that.

If your work can help a prospective client feel at home in this world, but won’t deliver on the spiritual pyrotechnics they might hope for, tell them that.

Here’s a worthy exercise to try:

  • Take two pieces of paper.
  • On the top of one piece of paper, write the word “Can”
  • On top of the other piece of paper , write the word “Can’t.”
  • Now take 15 minutes going back and forth between writing out what you feel confident your approach can do and what you know it cannot do.

Ask yourself, “What are people hoping my work with them might accomplish that just isn’t realistic?” – and then write about that.

Your first answers will be obvious but, as you keep digging and sifting, you’ll find more subtle things. You might do this for your business as a whole. You might try it for a particular workshop, product, or service. You will come across to clients as much more trustworthy and comfortable in your own skin than if you are full of inflated promises.

Finally, put this list of “cans” and “can’ts” on your website wherever it fits best. You might add it to your “Are You Sure?” page. You might put it in your sales letters, or even on your homepage.

Try telling the truth about your limits. Try telling the truth about your weaknesses.

Try considering the possibilities and the limitations of your own work and then sharing what you find.

You might be surprised by how much it ends up crediting you.

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  • Pamela

    I like the “can” and “can’t” page exercise. Skills also change over time and I’ve been thinking it would be a good idea to sit down and re-assess.

  • pamela. yes! re-assessing is such a fine idea. it’s amazing how much we learn and grow that we can miss because we’re so close to it.

  • Brian Parsons

    Hi Tadster… I will add… a) I have developed a few different vibrational technologies now, and I can say 100% that I have learnt more from the people where they don’t work / haven’t worked as expected then from those where they do work as expected… because every time it doesn’t work for someone you have the opportunity of standing back, asking the question “Now, what is it about that person that made it not work”… and if you are open, then a new and unexpected door will open… But I have read so many books for new therapies where they just list all the success cases, and don’t talk about the limitations, or where it plain won’t work or is less effective… but this means that as well as giving a distorted view of the therapy (because there is no ultimate therapy which work for everyone…) it means people never get taught how to approach their “failures” (hope that makes sense… therapists need to be taught how to deal with the ones they can’t help, and not try and push such people into the collective closet… or sell them stuff that won’t work in a million years). b) there are two modes of engagement, teacher mode and student mode… you need student mode to have an open mind and learn new stuff, and teacher mode to feel confident and empowered about teaching and communicating… but teacher mode can become addictive and seductive, especially to the ego, which is why some people cling to it (because it feels you know all the answers, and everyone is looking up at you adoringly… well hopefully)… so they never want to be seen as “not knowing the answer”… and so get stuck… and they never learn anything new (and so become boring and just bash you over the head with the stuff).

  • teacher vs. student mode. I love that. want to write a guest article about that for

  • Brian Parsons

    Me? OK… if you are up for it… :-)

  • looking forward to it.

  • Brian Parsons

    Check your email :-)